Life can be pretty paradoxical sometimes, can’t it? We crave security in our lives but we also want to maintain some feeling of freedom, too. We want to feel a certain amount of certainty (pun intended) in our ideas and affairs but we also want surprise and serendipity. We want our individuality but we also require community. We need healthy boundaries and self-interest but we also need to balance those with empathy and letting others in.
Since we met in 2019, my wife Ashlinn has astonished me time and again with her ability to navigate these sorts of dialectical dilemmas of life with efficiency and elegance.
Perhaps it has to do with growing up as an American in Japan and Germany. Or with attending both a rough public high school in Florida and three of the most prestigious institutions of higher learning in the world. Or with caretaking a mother who died far too young and a father who is vibrant and healthy today ten years post heart-transplant. Or with managing people and projects with global reach during her days working in brand strategy and advertising in NYC.
Whatever the recipe for her powerful paradoxing prowess may be, she’s a trusted go-to source of insight and advice for all of the folks in her sphere.
I’m absolutely stoked/proud/delighted to announce today that she’s now making her perspectives available to a wider audience via her lifetending offerings at HowToParadox.com.
What’s lifetending, you ask? Well, in Ashlinn’s words, “Lifetending is my own special approach that blends the services of a life coach, the care of an insightful friend, and the objectivity of a bartender. ” If you’d like to learn more or book a session to unravel a dilemma in your life just click that link above.
For your chilled summer vibes playlist needs, I’ve got a real gem for you today.
Thanks to the folks who run one of our favorite venues here in Turin, CAP10100, we’ve seen some fantastic shows lately. One of the standouts for me was a thrilling DJ set by local producer, Lorenzo Nada, AKA Godblesscomputers.
His brilliant 2017 release, Solchi (‘Grooves’ in Italian), echoes styles from artists as diverse as FKJ, Burial, James Blake, Rhye, and Caribou, and yet still feels truly coherent and original. Here you can watch a lovely, cinematic music video for the track, “Just Slow Down,” or you can listen to the entire record on Spotify or iTunes.
Last week Ashlinn and I took a road trip down to Tuscany to attend the wedding of her distant cousin Federico and his new wife, Laura. This was a momentous occasion for us as well as it was the first time Ashlinn had met many of her extended Italian family members, and the first time she had seen some of them since she was twelve.
The ceremony was held at the magnificent Villa La Ferdinanda, a grand hunting lodge built by the Medici Family in 1596. The weather was warm and bright and the setting couldn’t have been any more perfect for this celebration of matrimonio, famiglia e tradizione (marriage, family, and tradition).
The entire family was so warm and welcoming to both of us (i.e. the look on Ashlinn’s great aunt Beppina when she first saw her in the top left photo above or the family beckoning me to join the formal portrait in the top right shot). Great aunt Beppina regaled us with so many fun tales of growing up with Ashlinn’s grandfather, Oreste, in Borgo San Lorenzo.
For almost nine solid hours we hugged, and cried, and ate, and drank, and talked, and ate, and danced, and ate (!)…our way through that marvelous, magical day in Carmignano.